So my wife and I have been bringing a family with us to church since September, and as per usual, the "dad" has been the hardest sell. For a few months, just "mom" would come with the kids, and then we'd try to get Dad to come, to no avail. Finally, though, he came. And seemed to enjoy himself.
In fact, he's become a regular attender. Their family is coming almost every week. It's awesome! This week, he wrote a check and gave it in the offering bag. But... his one complaint about our weekend services?
He doesn't like that we ask him to join us in "standing and singing" together. He hates it. Makes him very uncomfortable.
Sometimes we get sooooo used to how we do church and soak in how much we enjoy it and revel in how revolutionary we are, but we forget the main thing. The main thing is the unchurched person. This guy cannot reconcile in his mind the practice of singing as a group, to a God he doesn't fully understand yet. And I can't blame him.
Try this weekend to look at the "worship through music" portion of your weekend services through the lens of the unchurched. Someone who has avoided this their whole lives, and is only now finding his or her way back to God. What do they need to experience? What parts of our "rituals" would be so foreign that they require explanation, or at least, permission to observe only?
Another family we've been reaching out to, they came one weekend in October, and not since. Last Saturday, he told me that his family liked it, and was making a commitment. They will be attending our church once a month. He was proud of that, and I was proud of him too. And he was there last weekend, with his family, for their new years resolution of once a month attendance. One step at a time.
It can be really fun watching people find heir way back to God. Here's to hoping that we get out of the way long enough to let God do His work.